How to handle the maids...

One of my bridesmaids is also getting married, I'm her bridesmaid too. It's a very unique, special and fun relationship we have right now as we are both stepping into a new chapter of our lives and we both have similar problems and celebrations. Though, at times we both need to take a step back and realize that the other is getting married too. And we both have to help the other get excited, prepare and set up for her big day. 

She, along with my sisters, has thrown me an amazing engagement party. It was so much fun! Though she doesn't want an engagement party. Nor does she want a lot of fuss to be had on her part. But I would love nothing else then to throw her a grand ol' party! 

After much discussion and realization, I realized she isn't me, she doesn't want the same things as I do. We're opposites but we balance each other out.  So I told her she has to stop treating me as if she's my bridesmaid (all of the time) and start treating me like I'm hers. She has to tell me, and others in the party, to just shut up and help her with things she needs help with. She really needs to handle the maids and tell them what's what.

The thing about bridesmaids is that they're not really maids. Everyone has their own lives and schedules and though they're happy for you they probably can't make it out to every appointment, every shopping excursion and talk about colour pairing for hours on end. It's difficult to say but... the maids aren't going to help you unless you tell them too. 

Even though they're your best friends, sisters or cousins, you are the bride - so tell them what you want and don't let them run the show. They're going to help and they're going to want what's best, so let them know how to do that.  Just be smart and communicate what you want. It's your wedding, they're there to help you have your dream day and ease the stress leading up to it. 

If you can't get the message across maybe try some of these helpful hints.

Fun ideas to help get the message across:

Title them: 

At a party or a shower make up little name tags that title who's who. Make tags that say "Maids" for the bridal party. It'll be a fun way of getting the message across and kicking the party into a playful mood. 

Wear the Crown:

You can purchase 'Bridesmaid' play crowns at almost any dollar store. Make them wear it when you guys are together so they can clearly be in the 'bridesmaid' mind frame. 

Give them a calendar:

In this calendar have tasks for them to complete by certain dates. Even if the tasks are as simple as 'calling to check up on my sanity' it may help you keep in touch with them and get thing accomplished a bit more easily. 

Talk to them:

Clearly outline what you want and don't want. Usually the bridesmaids deal with the stag and doe, the shower and a bachelorette party. If you don't want something, such as strippers, then clearly say "I DO NOT WANT THAT." If they don't listen to you, perhaps they should have a name tag that says 'guest' instead... just a suggestion. 

Include them:

Include your bridesmaids in your tasks, get them to help you out when you need them. Everyone wants to feel part of your wedding, especially your laddies. So ask them to come shopping for flowers with you or help you choose your jewellery. Let them know that you want them there and that you're excited  with them. The gesture will be greatly received and be well returned.  

Details, details...

Photographers, hair, makeup, food, linens, pastor, flowers and so much more! There are a million of things to think about when planning your own wedding. First of all, know your colours. Riley and I picked ours because of their association to us. We're using the colours blue (for the Toronto Maple Leafs of course), Sour Apple Green (my last name is Greenall and I like the colour mix with the blue) and silver (just because we can). Everything involving decorations (linens and flowers primarily) will be associated with your colours. Ensure they match, are clearly connected in different aspects of your wedding such as your bouquet, linens, centre pieces, etc. It'll make a pleasing picture when all colours and decorations coordinate to set the tone and attitude of your wedding.

Secondly, know your scheduling. It seems like everything we're doing involves five or more steps. Details that can overwhelm a bride who already has a plate full of details to deal with. Just make sure you know what you want before going to the salon.

You're going to meet with the pastor probably a minimum of 3-4 times prior to your wedding, depending if you're doing marriage counselling. The seamstress must see you at least three times before the big day to ensure the dress fits and you know how to get dressed properly the day of. The photographer you should really pay attention too. Those pictures last forever, you want to make sure they're good and in the style you prefer. I'm meeting with my photographer a bunch of times. Andrea's Impressions in St. Catharines is doing our wedding. I like her clear colourful style as she incorporates the backdrops in the mood of the picture. You're going to want to meet with your caterer about twice before the wedding, minimum. The caterer has all the skill and craftsmanship to make you a delightful meal, but if it's not done to the way you want it then it's a waste.

Last but not least; make sure you have everything written down. All of your appointments, all of your discussions you have with the venders, details you assume people understand sometimes need reiterated and you always want to make sure your wedding planner has all the contact information for everyone involved with the planning and organizing of your big day.

Start Planning

So we've started to plan, plan and do some more planning. It's getting pretty crazy around our house. We spent the entire weekend (last weekend) searching out venues... and holy cow, weddings are expensive! After extensive research and talking to wedding planners from different venues, pricing everything out, and discovering different options, we finally have found our DREAM venue! Honsberger Estate is the perfect wedding spot if you want to have a rustic country wedding in a renovated barn. Oh we are ecstatic! It is absolutely gorgeous!

We've even decided to get married in my parents backyard garden. It's going to be gorgeous! 


So we've accomplished the where. Now, we have to figure out who's going to do what, when, how and how much. EEKS!


I've started a bit of a checklist for things that can be helpful when planning a wedding. 


Planning tips


Know your budget. There are no excuses. You must know how  much you are willing to spend on each aspect of your wedding. Price everything out, get an idea of what things cost and how important those little extras are to you. Remember taxes and gratuities usually are not included in original prices quoted. 


Know the picture. What do you want your wedding to look like? Do you want it formal, informal, fun, flirty,  dramatic, or something out of the ordinary. Every aspect of your wedding should follow whatever format you're going for. My wedding is not formal, but we're still expecting everyone to dress up. There is no theme really. We're ensuring the bridesmaid dresses are pretty and flowing dresses, to go with the garden theme. The flowers are going to be bright and fun, nothing too formal either. 


Know your backup plan. If you're having your wedding outside, ensure you have a backup plan incase the weather turns ugly. 


Talk to everyone. Don't necessarily get everyone's opinions on what you should do for your wedding, that'll just get overwhelming. Get to know tips and tricks to help you save money, ideas for making your wedding unique, talk to people about details you may have forgotten. I actually forgot to budget in the wedding rings. Opps! It helps to talk to people who have gotten married before (and in the last 5 years.)


Happy Planning!

My Dress!

I found my gown!


Oh, it is beautiful! I went to the bridal store with my mom a few days ago. We just wanted to have some fun and shop. I really wasn't looking for 'the dress', I just wanted to see what was out there and to try different styles. It was supposed to be a fun night out with my mom, that's all. 


So, I tried on about 10 gowns. Each and every one of them was beautiful - Absolutely stunning. However, they all had their little quirks. One dress was too stiff, the other was too plain, but the last one was PERFECT! I tried it on in the fitting room and was immediately surprised at how it fit. It needs a bit of adjustment, but for the most part it fits perfectly! So, before I looked in the mirror I sauntered out of the change room and called out to my mom saying, 'look, it fits!' 


As soon as I looked at my mom I knew something was different about this gown. My mom stood there and gasped as her face turned white. I hadn't even looked at myself yet and already knew something felt right about the gown. As I walked to the stage part of the store (the part with all of the mirrors) I caught a glimpse of my reflection. WITHIN A SECOND of seeing it on me I started to hyperventilate!  


 I've never done that before... 


I started to cry, my legs started to shake, my face went all red, my make up became smeared... Then my mother started to cry. Oh, looked beautiful! 


I never thought I'd be that emotional when I found my dress. I really didn't want to get my dress on the first shopping experience either... I mean, the dress is what every girl dreams about, isn't it? I wanted to try on more and more and more!  So, as I was standing there, gazing at myself in this beautiful gown and I heard my mom say  'it's perfect!' 


But I just couldn't buy it, not yet. I just got engaged. I wanted to try on more dresses and go shopping with my friends and buy all of those really expensive bridal magazines. 


So after about an hour, I changed out of my gown and left the store without my gown. 

The next day I went to St. Catharine's Bridal Show. I saw all of the gowns in the show, the gowns on display and the gowns in the magazines. I went shopping with one of my bridesmaids and tried on more gowns. NONE of them matched the elegance, the beauty, the perfection of my gown. I tried on more and more, each time thinking, 'this is nice, but it's not my dress.'
So the next thing I know, my father called and told me that the woman from the first store had phoned him and said my dress was going on sale. My dad asked if that was the store my mom came home from crying because we found a beautiful gown. I answered, 'yes, that's the store. The dress is perfect. I think I want to get it.' 
My dad replies, 'Well good, I already gave them my credit card number!'


AHHHHH!! Isn't that exciting! My dad is pretty awesome like that. 


So now I have my dream dress. It's Mon Cheri's 'Jolie' gown. It is absolutely stunning. 
I love it, love it, love it!

Me in my beautiful dress! 

Who we are

Riley and I have been dating since we were 16 years old. We met in high school; actually, we met on the school bus in grade 9. We're high school sweet-hearts. We have been dating for over seven years and are best friends. We are planning our wedding with the main focus of fun, love and well, more fun... We love to have fun whether it is snowboarding, playing cards, going to comedy clubs or just watching a funny show on T.V. We’re fun-loving people.

We absolutely define the word love. We can argue until our faces are blue, we can laugh until tears are in our eyes, we can talk until the wee hours of the night and we can even just sit in silence, always knowing that there is no other person in the world we’d rather do these things with.

We are extremely excited to be planning our wedding day.  I'm pretty creative and Riley is pretty handy, so throughout this blog I’ll be posting some fun ideas for wedding planning. I’ll be posting at least once a week, letting you know the in-depth details of wedding plans, the dress, the food, everything. It’s going to be fun!